My Letter to a 16-year-old Girl struggling with Suicidal Thoughts

Three Ways To Come Out Of It Immediately

She wrote to me,

I’m 16 and I’ve been thinking about suicide for a year now. I don’t really know what I want to do with my life and it doesn’t help that my mom keeps pressuring me to pursue a career that I’m not even interested in. The other day I got in an argument with my mom about what she wanted me to become. She threatened that she wouldn’t pay for my college if I tried becoming something else. I feel trapped. I feel like my life was never mine to begin with. I could talk to my mom about this, but I know she wouldn’t take me seriously; she never does. At this point I don’t really care about my life or my future anymore. I mean, what’s the point of living if I can’t be happy or live my own life?

I Said,

Dear Kritika,

Don’t worry, everything going to be alright soon.

Here are few options you need to act upon immediately.

Option 1 ( The immediate one)

Do you have someone else you can talk to about your suicidal thoughts ?  Maybe your school counsellor, family friend, relatives, family doctor or other adult who could get you help? If not, please consider at least calling AASRA, a 24/7 helpline, 022 27546669. You can also call LiveLoveLaugh at 022 25521111, a foundation run by Deepika Padukone. You can also find more over google.

Option 2:

As you follow the option 1, say to your mom. Dear mom, I’m your daughter, I’m sure you would never like to see me unhappy and dissatisfied in life. And I do respect, what you want me to become, because there you might see a better and early chance of success (financially).

But don’t you also care about what I want? Don’t you think earning less but doing what I love is where I can be happier. After all mom, this is a lifetime thing and one of the biggest decision of my life. How can I choose it wrong? I would request you to think about it once more and consider every aspects of my life.

And also tell her about your suicidal thoughts, that you think of quitting. You think that life is not worth living if you can’t live it the way you want. The most important thing here, that she shouldn’t feel as if you’re threatening her. That way she may stick to her decision. Do it in way that she believes you. And you know it better than anyone else, after all she’s your mother. A great story, shared in my book Love X Marry Y, how to convince your parents to let you follow your dream career?

Option 3:

The rare way, less people do it this way. Going wild with their dreams. If you’re really passionate about something, you’ll find a way to live it. You know your options and opportunities than anyone else. So go wild with your dream and do everything that allows you do what you love.

But, there is one option you should never try, the one you’re thinking right now. Yes I’m talking about your thoughts of taking your own life. This is truly cowardice. You may think of doing anything in life but not this.

Remember, “ Ending your life is never be a solution to live a life you dreamt of ”.

I would like to see you soon coming out of this. Do write me back and let me know how do you feel after you follow the steps. And also let me know if I can help you more on this. Feel free to write me as long as you want.

With love,

Avinash